Making excuses is not the same as fixing problem. And the problem is not a lack of perfection as much as a lack of moral restraint.
You know nothing about me if you think I make excuses.
Anyway, you’re right. Making excuses isn’t the same as fixing the problem or even identifying the problem.
We’re gonna have to disagree on the “moral restraint” thing. Most parents teach their kids. And sometimes those kids make their own choices/mistakes. I had an aunt in the 1930s who had sex before marriage. It’s not anything new. It was a scandal back then. It was a scandal, maybe less so, in my family when back in the late 70s another teen had pre marital sex and got pregnant. She got caught.
It happens. It’s not something we want to encourage, but it happens and it has always happened. To pretend otherwise is just silly.