Sound very familiar.
Symptoms almost always include OCD, depression, frustration, not understanding subtle communications. But gifted in science, technology, and engineering fields.
My sympathy to you.
Well, he is an engineer, and a musician, and a distance runner. But not depressive ;-).
I figured it was just “Married Man Syndrome,” where a person becomes incapable of doing things if he knows his wife will do them for him.
Anyway, we’ve been (mostly) happily married for 20 years!