We don’t have to win over these types. We can triumph witnout them if we just don’t abandon or water down our conservative principles. Whitman? Give me a break! Big tent, be damned!
Ronald Reagan wouldn't recognize your sentiments as politically valid. Republicans win elections by running conservative presidential candidates with broad-based appeal.
A simple statement by any Republican candidate along the lines of "I am pro-life and I will nominate constructionists to the federal courts" and "I believe mariage should be defined as being between one man and one woman" should be enough to satisfy any socially conservative voter, presupposing that the candidate has the record to back his statement up (disqualifying Mitt Romney in the minds of many). Social conservatism does not need to be the primary message of the Republican Party...the focus of any Republican candidacy should be on fiscal responsibility, tax cuts, a pro-business agenda, tort reform and national defense.
Abortion was not the focus of the Reagan Administration...winning the Cold War was. The next Republican nominee must be pro-life and pro-traditional family (this rules out Whitman) but the campaign trail must be a platform for emphasizing our disagreements with liberals in other political areas. We need as many fellow travelers as we can get.