You, sir, are exactly right. The problem is not that "dang buncha homos gonna ruin evrythin". The problem is that the military will have to incorporate homosexual issues into existing equal opportunity framework. Which is to say that a servicemember that publicly disagreed with the homosexual lifestyle but agreed to peacefully coexist anyway would see his career obliterated.
What's more, is that there is no peaceful coexistance in the military. You must not only obey official policy by word and deed, but you have to teach it, believe it and ensure that your subordinates do as well. There is no religious exemption. It is not optional. You must never give off a hint that you disagree with promoting the gay lifestyle, either in uniform or out.
You, as a military leader, will be responsible for teaching your young troops that being homosexual is not only okay, but an integral part of America's highest values. You, as a leader, must ensure that your troops feel unAmerican and criminal for disagreeing with the lawful guidance from their superior officers and civilian leadership.
Fail to do so with a straight face will earn you EO complaints as sharp as sniper fire. Any straight troop with a grudge can dust your career over a stray anti-gay lifestyle statement. They'll make examples out of as many people as they need to. Toe the line 100%, or you'll be replaced.
I think you hit the nail on the head (no pun intended).
It’s not about how well-adjusted heterosexuals deal with homosexuals. It’s about all the PC crap we have to swallow (pun intended) to work with homosexuals (and their enablers) who portray themselves as victims.
As I strive understand the deeper implications of your argument, I wonder if I am too facile about the issue.
Good analysis!