You are probably right - very sad - when I grew up in CT it was more stuck-up snobbish types that were idealists because they had money to be but they were against anyone who was different or not in the clique.
Oh I know. I grew up in a very rich town, not fitting in at all being from a relatively poor family. And we used to play “spot the New Yorkers” on the town square. It was so easy to do.