I'm sorry for you, and for your perpetual disappointment in your family, which you project onto these threads.
I’m not disappointed in my family. I’m just honest about them. None of us has perfect families. They do things to hurt us but as parents, we love them anyway.
I’ve been doing research on my entire family back to my grandmother’s parents, etc. She was born a couple of months after they married. My dad was born out of wedlock. My sister had a couple of children out of wedlock and THEY have had chilren out of wedlock, and now my great niece is pregnant, no husband. This is a generational ‘curse’ as we say in christianspeak. Even in my mom’s family (all in Norway) there were many children born out of wedlock or ‘just in time.’ I’d like to see my generations do things differently and believe me, I talk to my granddaughters about it all the time. I pray it works.