I don’t think it is an “either” “or” situation. I think they both can get what they want and what they need, if they simply start thinking about one another.
I don't agree with the first statement- I believe men and women approach communication differently. But there's no need to quibble over the details since you don't seem to buy into the double-standard I was describing... and it's that double-standard that I object to.
I hate double standards too - and there are some that work against the women too.
From my experience - and what I was taught before I was married - “love” is a verb - not a noun.
It isn’t just about “our” wants and needs - it is also about self sacrifice. Treating your spouse with dignity and respect.
So while I agree with Prager that women need to pay careful attention to their man’s needs - I disagree with his opinion that she should just put out when she isn’t in the mood.
As another poster pointed out - if it’s too much trouble to solve the “mood” issue - then maybe he needs to buy a blowup doll?
And I’m talking about a normal woman with a normal sex drive.
I understand - as others have pointed out - there are some out there with no sex drive and need some help there.
Which, I guess, is a whole ‘nother story.