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I mean you won the lotto in terms of finding someone compatible. You've been bragging all over the thread about how great your marriage is. Great, I'm happy for you. Yes, marriage has its ups and downs but for those who are fundamentally incompatible every day is a battle. It shouldn't be that way. Maybe you have a circle of long time happily married friends so life looks a certain way to you. All I'm asking is for you to consider situations from the point of view of others. There are many singles out there who have not found the right person for them. It's not a matter of blame or lack of effort. Sometimes life experiences are just different for different people.

I do have understanding and compassion for others.

It doesn't come across that way.

Could it be the victim mentality we seem to embrace? Some people want to throw away their money to get “counseled” by someone who can’t help them other than to stroke their ego? I’m no expert and it’s just my opinion but those areas are booming because there’s a market of suckers. We need dating, relationship and counselling industries?

This is Exhibit A of my point.

“You’ve been bragging all over the thread about how great your marriage is.”

Really? Didn’t realize I was doing that and after checking my posts on this thread don’t think I have been doing that. You have an issue, it’s your issue. Some people are happy or as happy as they allow themselves to be. I happen to think my husband is one hell of a guy. Sorry if I can’t join in the “men suck” because my husband, my late father, and all of my brothers are great guys. No marriage or relationship is perfect.

“It doesn’t come across that way.”

It does to the people who bother to look beyond their own issues. It does to the people who matter.

“This is Exhibit A of my point.”

LOL. Didn’t realize we were in a court of law. Proves my point too.

There are many singles out there who have not found the right person for them. It's not a matter of blame or lack of effort. Sometimes life experiences are just different for different people.

Gotta agree with you there. Sometimes the happily married are unconsciously contemptuous of those who haven't won the marriage lottery, thinking themselves 'way cool rather than thanking God for having blessed them with a good marriage.

Some folks get "blessed" the way Job was blessed.