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If he thinks woman should be having sex when they are not in the mood because they are obligated to - then that tells me he does not want to accept women the way they are.

You may be correct. But think about it from the other side for a moment.

Compared to most women, a lot of men are less interested in things like talking and emotional intimacy. Think of a typical man's phone conversation (usually short and to-the-point), or how he consoles a buddy who's experienced a breakup. This is not to say men never like to have an idle conversation or are never emotionally sensitive, just that these things may be less frequent or require more "setup" than for most women.

With this in mind, imagine if someone were to say that men should ALWAYS be ready to listen to their wives or to provide emotional intimacy...regardless of the husband's mood at that time, and with no need for the wife to meet certain prerequisites to get what she wants from her husband.

If someone were to describe a husband's obligations in this way, would you say this person does not accept men the way they are?

“With this in mind, imagine if someone were to say that men should ALWAYS be ready to listen to their wives or to provide emotional intimacy...regardless of the husband’s mood at that time, and with no need for the wife to meet certain prerequisites to get what she wants from her husband.”

To compare the two is apples and oranges.
In one case you’re talking about one person lending an ear - or not.
The other? You’re talking about lending something “else” entirely.

“If someone were to describe a husband’s obligations in this way, would you say this person does not accept men the way they are?”

Sure, but that doesn’t change my statement about “how women are”.

To be more specific - I’m really curious how Mr. Prager honestly expects this fantastic insight of his to be put to practical use.

Is this column going to inspire his wife?
Are men going to e-mail this column to their women?

And what will be the result?
Well- because women “are the way they are” - the result will be zilch.

Or - Mr. Prager could do something useful.
He could tell his wife that her jeans make her but look nice. Rub her shoulders. Kiss her on the neck.
There are alot of little things that will get a much better result than telling a woman “it’s your duty..”