Posted on 12/29/2008 11:11:17 PM PST by goldstategop
when I was in my 20’s we did the 3 week thing.
I turned 40 in the spring and had my 8th in May.
I insisted on the 6 weeks.
(and I didn’t even have C-sections!)
Maybe it is. I come from a family (parents, sibs, most exttended family) that laughed a whole lot, and fought too but mostly laughed even during fighting. All anyone had to do was crack some joke and the whole fight seemed so silly.
I can be on fire angry and whomever I’m angry with makes me laugh and there goes all that anger. I do it to my oldest brother all the time. He’s a PITA but he can’t help but laugh. My husband does it to me.
It’s definitely the magic ingredient for me. And for my husband so it works out well for us. Sounds like you guys have that too.
“You are right. But she failed. In fact, she was telling people I had an “anger problem”, yet one of my friends families, on a camping trip (that last year), saw her go on an uncontrolled tyrade simply because I didn’t go fetch her water exactly the way she wanted me to”
my hubby calls them “high maintenance women”.
I know one of these.
Her hubby starts drinking at 5:00 every night.
If I had to live with her I’d be drinking right along with him.
I don’t consider women weak for crying after the death of their child. Don’t try to put words in my mouth.
I thought the title of the thread had to do with sex and married women. I don’t follow this “female nature” stuff. I don’t need to ask 5 women for their opinion.
We disagree on this topic and that’s ok. imo. Your opinion is as valuable or as inconsequential as mine.
You wouldn’t - by chance - be irish would you?
You just described my upbringing - and my marriage too!
Except I don’t have a brother.
Our humor was more on the sarcastic side.
You were NOT ALLOWED to have sensitive feelings - or you did not survive.
“You’ve been bragging all over the thread about how great your marriage is.”
Really? Didn’t realize I was doing that and after checking my posts on this thread don’t think I have been doing that. You have an issue, it’s your issue. Some people are happy or as happy as they allow themselves to be. I happen to think my husband is one hell of a guy. Sorry if I can’t join in the “men suck” because my husband, my late father, and all of my brothers are great guys. No marriage or relationship is perfect.
“It doesn’t come across that way.”
It does to the people who bother to look beyond their own issues. It does to the people who matter.
“This is Exhibit A of my point.”
LOL. Didn’t realize we were in a court of law. Proves my point too.
“My bride is why my heart bothers to take it’s next beat. She is why my lungs fill with fresh air, the reason I get up in the morning and why I have always come home to her at night. I figure that if you hope is to spend all of eternity with your soulmate, you best keep it fun, interesting and beautiful all at the same time.”
sigh!
flutter flutter!
I like the foot rub part :) That is heavenly.
hmmmm.....
If I were young and single it would be easy to read many of these “marriage sucks” comments and get sour on the notion.
There ARE people out there who are happily married, and it’s good to hear from them.
8? God has surely blessed you! I have 4. I wanted 10.
The 6 weeks was a must!
And I admire you. 8 Children. What a fun house you got there.
definitely the shoulders.
The feet are nice too.
A read your response a few times.
It made me laugh each time.
A very loud and messy house - but fun too.
It definitely is NOT boring.
Im tryin to understand the rationale of the handful of women on these two threads that believe its selfish for a man to desire his WIFE, but dont think the opposite is selfish when they require 3 days of Don Juan 'motor startin' before theyll do the 'chores'... 7 kids, you mustve been persuaded on occassion eh ???
Irish? Well yes, half of me is...other half is Italian. I prefer to think of it as the best of both worlds ;)
We had sarcastic humor too, wit.
My brothers were brutal. Sweet too but brutal at times. Mostly just annoying. Being the youngest and the girl, I suffered terribly, lol. Or so I like to claim.
Do you like Pipes and Drums music? I have a link for you if you do...my oldest brother is in one of the local pipes and drums band here. . He was over in Ireland for St. Patty’s day last year and the vid is great.
Yep. We were allowed to have sensitive feelings but someone was always ruined the moment with a joke that made us laugh.
My parents grew up during the Great Depression so maybe that had something to do with their strength and humor. My Dad was a WWII Vet. My oldest brother is old enough to be my father.
Since you want to go down the road of personally attacking me for trying to make a point I’ll just leave it here.
You’ve got all the answers apparently and everyone else is wrong.
Have a nice evening.
ahhh...you’re not just the baby - you’re the baby BY FAR!
I was the baby - 2 older sisters, 5 & 7 years older than me.
I do like that irish music.
I heard about the depression mostly from my grandparents.
My dad was born in the middle of the depression.
They were lucky to be on a farm so they could fend for themselves, but of course it was still tough.
My grandmother never got over it. She held on to quite a few quirks even when she had enough money to live comfortably.
She did leave behind a little “slush fund” for us though.
She wanted us to have an irish wake when she died.
We were supposed to go to a local bar/restaurant and have ourselves a good ‘ole time.
And boy did we!
Lucky. With all those men in the family, you were lucky to get to understand men at a young age and not be intimidated by them. Doesn’t sound like your father was too intimidating either. And everybody laughed all the time. Another piece of luck. Lucky
3 days isn’t necessary.
A few minutes of well invested time oughta do the trick - and that’s when she’s not in the mood.
When she’s in the mood you most likely won’t have to work very hard at all.
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