[Scotswife]

I’m with Tax-chick.

It isn’t that the entire article is worthless - it has its good points.

But he loses me when he states that women should be having sex even when they aren’t in the mood.

I would agree that a woman-not-in-the-mood should consider engaging in activities that would “get” her in the mood.

I would not agree she should just march into the bedroom and “get it over with”.

Because then you’ve got an entirely different problem on your hands.

[Tax-chick]

A “personal” relationship that is drudgery indicates that the rest of the relationship is drudgery, too. And it takes both spouses to make changes that result in a better situation for everyone.

The wife who is dutifully “performing” just because a man needs to evacuate his prostate at regular intervals is the wife whose husband can’t understand what was wrong when she leaves him the day the youngest child leaves home. “But everything was just fine!”

[TalonDJ]

I would agree that a woman-not-in-the-mood should consider engaging in activities that would “get” her in the mood.

Sure but that is a far cry from waiting until a mood wanders by or putting the burden of creating HER moods on HIM. She needs to take responsibility for her own mood and work on it sometimes.

[Domestic Church]

“But he loses me when he states that women should be having sex even when they aren’t in the mood.”

Yeah....he needs to look at why they aren’t in the mood... for instance sciatic pain is a definite mood killer, and migraine headaches or other painfilled conditions would make a women lose interest. If you have been up all night for several nights with sick children, you might not be in the mood to drain his prostate.

Denis Prager might want to watch an old movie called “They Shoot Horses” to get an idea of just how tired some working mothers are these days. Not being in the mood might be an indicator of real physical exhaustion or even illness from the rat race marathon. A good spouse like Denis Prager might want to get his wife to the Dr.