Well - like all analogies, it has it’s flaws.
A husband is not a “buddy” - agreed.
I’m only trying to illustrate that for women there is more of a mind-body connection that needs to engage which is less prevalent for the men.
” I wonder if making love with the husband is even ON many wives’ “list,” and if so, where on that it list it is placed in priority. If it isn’t on the list, the chance of getting it “done” is pretty low.”
True.
And I said in a previous post - I don’t disagree with the entire article.
I only disagree with the part where he seems to discount the women’s mood as a factor.
“Very few wives have to wonder if their husband would like to have sex on a particular day”
I’ve heard some women make that complaint.
” Failing to make time for him, knowing that it is important, is no different than telling him he just doesn’t matter.”
I’m not saying women are blameless.
This is a two way street.
What I’m arguing with is this notion that women should drop everything and “take one for the team”
Where is the romance in that?
Both people need to be attentive to each other.
Both people need to be concerned with their partner’s needs and what it takes to get them to respond.
I think I agree with every point you have made. I might quibble about “taking one for the team” only in this regard: Sometimes you may be invited to a party that you don’t want to attend. If you stop by “just to make an appearance” (or, as Raymond on the TV show says, “bring a ‘gift’”) you might decide that the party is pretty fun after all.
The most important part, though, as you noted, is that it IS a two way street.