So maybe the goal shouldn't be no sex or shallow sex but intimate sex with a person you love and will be with for a long timeAlas, finding someone to love is much harder than finding canned goods at supermarkets.
And finding caned goods at the supermarket is "settling", yet earlier in the thread you seemed to have trouble imaging why people are calling casual sex settling for a "lower standard". Now imagine if (A) the canned goods were much more likely to create medical issues for you than good food and (B) the more canned goods that you ate, the harder it would be for you to find and eat good food and you start to get closer to an analogy here.