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I am glad she came to terms with it in whatever way. But articles like this of self centered people’s first reactions to their ‘not what we expected’ children are pretty darn revolting. The way she thought her child was an abomination until she read differently in a book... ug, turns my stomach.

"I am glad she came to terms with it in whatever way. But articles like this of self centered people’s first reactions to their ‘not what we expected’ children are pretty darn revolting. The way she thought her child was an abomination until she read differently in a book... ug, turns my stomach."

You do realize that this is how the majority of Americans thought decades ago - at a time when we were supposedly more "religious?" How many children with Downs Syndrome were raised by their parents in the home 75 years ago? Many were warehoused.

There's nothing new under the sun, you know.

Having gone through the same thing myself (giving birth to a Down Syndrome baby) 39 years ago, I can tell you that it comes as a shock to the system. In my case, I had already had a very hard pregnancy and knew that something wasn’t right all along, but I just didn’t know what. A person is just in shock right at first and feels suddenly separated completely from so-called “normal” people. It takes a while and a lot of different emotions and thoughts before wisdom sets in.

That baby (Michael) had other birth defects internally that caused a need for surgery six weeks later, and he passed away in the recovery room afterwards. - I see so many, mostly young, people who have so far led charmed lives and haven’t faced anything difficult in life who seem almost arrogant toward anyone that doesn’t fit the “image” of “beautiful people”. - That experience, among others in my life, humbled me (a once vain person) and for that, I am grateful and thank God.

Last evening, I saw a middle aged man with Down Syndrome at the restaurant where my husband and I enjoyed Thanksgiving dinner, and who I saw was just a man also enjoying a wonderful, bountiful Thanksgiving meal with his family. - I once again saw more clearly the human condition and also saw that we’re all a part of it with all our varying imperfections and illnesses whether evident or internal and concealed.

So you find it revolting that God sent her a child that taught her to open up her heart and be transformed?

None of us are perfect, and we are all self centered to some degree, and it’s wonderful when we can overcome our deficiencies due to whatever circumstance God sends us to help us grow in His divine wisdom and love.

But articles like this of self centered people’s first reactions to their ‘not what we expected’ children are pretty darn revolting. The way she thought her child was an abomination until she read differently in a book... ug, turns my stomach.

You obviously read into the article what you wanted to read into it. The problem is yours, not hers.

The way she thought her child was an abomination until she read differently in a book... ug, turns my stomach.

You have a very shallow view of your own propensity to rebel against God's "different" gifts if you react like that. Let God give you something that slams you in your own solar plexus and you will be like this woman..., like me...., and like the rest of fallen humanity. Your reaction will be that of self-pity, anger, and rejection. Not because you are disgusting filth and somehow a lower moral order person, but because you are a normal person, which means you are fallen.

This woman simply talks about her fallen emotional responses, and how embracing God's good gifts brings an unexpected joy.

Your response is very Pharisaical. Here is to the hypocrite in all of us, and the hope of the new world where that nature will be gone!