Wow! Nine siblings is a lot. I only have one, a brother, and he lives in Germany and doesn’t celebrate Christmas, though he is a Christian...long story...
My husband has five sisters and we quit exchanging gifts long ago. It got to be too much. The kids draw names so it’s one gift each from the larger family.
The grandparents on each side give our son $50.00 so he’s more than spoiled. Plus, he just had a birthday. I’m ready to rename his room, ‘Legoland.’
Lucky you, your husband not wanting anything. My husband’s not a shopper by any means, but he does like new clothes or new tools for his shop. I leave the tool thing to my dad. LOL
The 9 siblings, PLUS their MANY children, LOL, is why I buy for the adults. The children are all fine, the extended family falls all over itself to buy for them, so they get plenty. Sometimes the adults get lost in the shuffle, after all, they’re adults. So I get a little something for them, or something for them and the family-like treats from Swiss Colony :) Sometimes I throw some cute little item-a small gloss palette or something from Sephora-in for my sisters. They have kids, so they can’t buy too many things like that for themselves.
My husband would rather I knocked myself out on the Christmas dinner than anything, and made enough for his sons and their wives to take some home, so I do. Especially my gumbo :)