You’ve probably nailed it here better than anyone.
None of what I read surprised me.
Even some conservative women, whom I normally respect, seem to be infected with the irrational anti-man aspects of American "kultursmog", and have demonstrated such infection on this very thread.
Their reaction to the phrase "shut up" was irrational and disproportionate. Although I dislike the phrase (Dad taught me it was boorish), there was and is truth expressed by it. Quite simply, a woman CANNOT show a boy how to be a man, any more than a man can show a girl how to be a woman. While some women seem to understand this, others do not ... and they need to be told. There are times, particularly when raising boys, that Mommy needs to sit down, be quiet, and let Dad do the job without interference. She quite simply has nothing to add to, and much to subtract from, the process.
As bad as single mothering is (on average), henpeckery is even worse.