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You were a dumb ass to voluntarily tender your resignation. Make them fire you, dammit! You’ve just made the job of their attorney much MUCH easier if you pursue any sort of legal remedy. Do everyone a favor and name your employer. You have nothing to lose whatsoever. Who was it?

I really needed to be called a dumbass right now.

It's 4am and I can't sleep. And if you would have paid attention, and read the previous posts, you'd know my employer was Dish Network.

And thanks for your "support".

Dear Lisa,

Everyone has an opinion on what you should or shouldn't do or have done. But they were not walking in your shoes.

You made the decision you thought was right at the time. Don't second guess yourself.

If you are up to the rigor of fighting it legally, fine. Otherwise, shake the dust off your shoes and don't look back.

Peace.

I have a great deal of empathy for your personal situation and understand fully you're emotional need to terminate a relationship in which you were set up by the system to be a patsy. I do not denigrate for one minute the strain which led you to do the thing they probably wanted in the first place.

But the posters who reacted by saying that you should not have quit were correct and that is a lesson which needs to be heeded by every other reader who lands in this situation as the landscape darkens after the election.

The second lesson is that legal services are amazingly cheap when one seeks help before the inflection point. Indeed, I would wager that a review of the Internet would have sped you in the right direction. As a caution to all employees, we should document on a daily basis and confirm whenever possible by written memoranda everything that relates to job environment.

Let me add another word which I hope you do not take as being condescending in any way. Our self-worth has been established by God and is not determined, repeat, not determined by status at the workplace. This is especially difficult for men to accept when they are laid off because society identifies success for men as their ability to bring home bacon. When we try to establish our self-worth by reference to these horizontal values, we will always be disappointed. The answer, ultimately, is vertical.

Re:..................”It’s 4am and I can’t sleep”

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I understand. Went through some heinous times with my last employer. It was so bad that I have not worked since, though I am getting older and have savings. If I had to work again, I’d try it through a temp agency.

You don’t sound to me like you want or need to be saddled with a big lawsuit — it takes years of your life from what I’m told — you have to “live with it” day to day for years; very draining, all encompassing.

I personally think you’d be better off just getting hold of your old records, performance reviews, etc. Then talk to an HR attorney in your town. Chances are you will come away with a monetary settlement and agreement to let you receive unemployment.

My old employer fired me for speaking out at a company meeting about a pet project they held dear (but gave me a settlement!) and then denied me unemployment. I told my story to my state’s unemployment dept. and they said “we get it; you deserve the money” and I got the funds immediately.

My point is I don’t think you are up to a huge battle with these people. I’d recommend not going the full lawsuit route.

I really needed to be called a dumbass right now.

Someone needs to call you that, because you were.

It's 4am and I can't sleep. And if you would have paid attention, and read the previous posts, you'd know my employer was Dish Network.

I did pay attention, I read all of the fawning 'poor-baby' responses you've been receiving, and saw that you did in fact identify your employer. You must have missed that post where I acknowledged that you did ID your former employer.

And thanks for your "support".

You've got plenty of support, what you need is a swift kick in the ass to get you re-focused and back in the fight.

Consider it done. Now quit feeling sorry for yourself, and get yourself in gear.