As for your new question and change of direction, may I suggest e-harmony.com.
I did answer your previous questions, see my post. I have never seen anything written in history that the purpose of marriage is, “happiness.” Please provide me with something authoritative that says otherwise. As well, I told you about the research in other countries that shows when homosexual marriage or civil unions start, heterosexual marriage becomes meaningless.
In this article, Stanley Kurtz addresses exactly what you are talking about, "the conservative case for homosexual marriages." i.e. that denying marriage to homosexuals is denying them rights.
Please read it. This is the first paragraph:
MARRIAGE IS SLOWLY DYING IN SCANDINAVIA. A majority of children in Sweden and Norway are born out of wedlock. Sixty percent of first-born children in Denmark have unmarried parents. Not coincidentally, these countries have had something close to full gay marriage for a decade or more. Same-sex marriage has locked in and reinforced an existing Scandinavian trend toward the separation of marriage and parenthood. The Nordic family pattern--including gay marriage--is spreading across Europe. And by looking closely at it we can answer the key empirical question underlying the gay marriage debate. Will same-sex marriage undermine the institution of marriage? It already has.
These articles represent more than your third-grade legal theory of happiness or id-based marriages.
Why should I pay for that? If I have a right to be married, the state of California should not take away my rights.
"Show me just what Mohammed brought that was new, and there you will find things only evil and inhuman, such as his command to spread by the sword the faith he preached." - Manuel II Palelologus