Who's this "we"? I don't consider a word of that to apply to me ... or my mother, grandmothers, or friends.
Well, excuuuuse me!
I’m probably old enough to be your grandmother since mine has been deceased for over 50 years and I assure you life was very different back then.
When I first married I couldn’t get a mortgage, credit card, or hold an executive type job anywhere. If you think none of that has any effect on the psyche you are sadly mistaken.
Glad your world is much better now.