"AIDS" deaths in Africa have, of course, been greatly exaggerated. This is because there is no money to be gotten from western nations when someone dies of dehydration from diarrhea, but you can get funds if someone dies of AIDS. Also, HIV testing is not regularly done on people in Africa, so anyone who dies from symptoms that are at all consistent with AIDS will often be considered an AIDS death.
The big one is the "AIDS is not a gay disease" myth. I agree with you completely on that one. HIV clearly doesn't spread easily from woman to man; therefore, men who don't use intravenous drugs or have sex with men have almost no chance of getting HIV. Women can get HIV from infected men, but they have a hard time passing it on. So, heterosexuals can not cause an AIDS epidemic no matter there level of promiscuity. (NBA hall of famer Dr. J. tried to make this exact point many years ago after Magic Johnson announced he was HIV positive. Dr. J. claimed to have had sex with 10,000 women. Many people missed the point Dr. J. was making, he could have made it more clear by saying, "I had sex with 10,000 women and zero men."
It looks like the only thing standing between our two positions with respect to AIDS is HIV. However, the fact that Magic discontinued his AIDS chemotherapy drugs over a decade ago and remains in perfect health should give pause to all those who believe that HIV causes AIDS.