You seem not be allowing for a woman’s conscience to be enlightened by God’s grace, for her to repent, confess, be forgiven, and do penance. This can happen in a post-abortive’s woman’s heart at any time ... or not at all, if she is not open to receiving grace.
Although I think you’re right that too much is made about women’s not being responsible for a decision to abort, nonetheless it doesn’t occur to many young women, brought up in a “pro-choice,” and even more, an anti-birth society, that there is anything wrong with abortion ... until it’s too late, for the baby.
> This can happen in a post-abortive’s woman’s heart at any time ... or not at all, if she is not open to receiving grace.
What you say is absolutely true — and if I gave the impression that Abortion was an unforgivable sin, my apologies.
Abortion is only unforgivable if it goes unacknowledged as being Wrong, or even worse yet, claimed as being Right.
Either way, Sinners aren’t “Victims” — because God does not victimize us. They are either Sinners, or they are Forgiven.