[top 2 toe red]

It just seems that there is a bias AGAINST adoption, that it is somehow a lesser option.

I am not biased AGAINST adoption, but, unlike you, I am not biased FOR adoption, either.

I personally know more than one adoptive home that did NOT escape divorce. Adoption does not equal utopia...unfortunately.

[pa mom]

We can all point to personal experiences that prove or disprove any generality, so that is not usually a strong rhetorical tool.

I am absolutely pro-adoption, and I help place babies in great homes all the time. The couples giving up these children are not without resources, financial and social, and they love their babies. I see it in their eyes when they turn over the child. Their hearts break—But they want to give their child a more certain future.

Some of the “she’ll be surrounded by a loving family” sounds suspiciously like “it takes a village”. Ultimately, child-rearing is the responsibility of one man and one woman creating a nuclear family.