>>SHAME IS NEVER A MOTIVATING FACTOR.<<
I beg to differ. It’s why only one of my mother’s friends got unmarriedly pregnant in high school, and why she gave the baby up for adoption.
It’s also why junior-high girls do the vast majority of whatever it is they do. Peer pressure is a bitch.
I think you mean common sense is a better motivator, not shame. Shame made your mother’s friend give the baby up for adoption. I’m glad she had the baby, but if the reason she gave it up for adoption was because of shame - that isn’t good either. Sounds like shame caused her to do something she might not have wanted to. Ask your mother’s friend now if she regrets giving up her baby for adoption.