My wife is like your husband though, and it does have a major effect upon a marriage when the two are wildly different. In 15 years of marriage I can probably list the number of times we've gone to bed at the same time on one hand, and they were on our honeymoon. Talking before we fall asleep . . . or holding each other . . . or chatting when we wake up? Never happens.
My husband and I used to go to bed at the same time before we had kids. We would both stay up till about 12-1, and get up around 8-9. We worked at the same company and had flex time. It was great fun!
Once kids happened, I was the one going to bed early to wake up early.
It really got bad a few years ago when my husband took a new job that has offices in Asia. During the week, he is usually e-mailing and talking to the Asia office from 12-3am. I hate it!!!!!!!
Vacation is the only time we’ll go to bed at the same time.