You make a lot of good points.
The US, historically, generally helps both friend and foe, post conflict. I was surprised when that incompetent drunk Yeltsin was allowed to roll around like a loose cannon, and it seemed that we were a little short on post conflict support considering that such a large entity (USSR) had to completely rebuild it's economic system without many experts available. The black market is not the same as the free market.
Russia and Eastern European nations have (since the industrial revolution) been the resources treasure trove of Western Europe, and the Westerners looked at the Easterners like Col. Sanders looks at chickens. Serbia/Kosovo was much more about keeping Eastern Europeans economically weak, than about oppressed Muslim immigrants, but, as you point out, Clinton was the Executive, so he executed, like a fool.
Establishing precedent like this cuts two ways, surprise, surprise.
I’ve seen that logic before: because Kosovo was wrong, Georgia is right. You need to fill me in on the Kremlin way of looking at things.