this is bull...the cases I see are where the dad making loads more than mom who has sacrificed career development to focus on the kids, now has to contend with dad withholding money, refusing to pay bills, paying car insurance late, dad flying out to California and living the Viagra life while mom is trying to learn how to do email.......
My ex-boss (a Psychiatrist) had his wife decide that he was around too much. She started divorce procedings and it took him eight years to get through it.
She ended up with
The kids
The house
The BMW
All the money they had stashed away
And 4000.00 a month in child support
He ended up with
His practice and office equipment
I know, I did his books. He couldn’t afford to pay me. In the eight years, he met one of the nurses where we worked. They dated and moved in together. She paid my salary and the office phone.
In the end he left for CA and got a job in the private sector. And she had a tree fall on her. I kid you not.
“this is bull...the cases I see are where the dad making loads more than mom who has sacrificed career development to focus on the kids, now has to contend with dad withholding money, refusing to pay bills, paying car insurance late, dad flying out to California and living the Viagra life while mom is trying to learn how to do email.......:”
That does happen alot - but there are also good dad who simply cannot keep up with the payments.
I know a man who was losing his mind, but decided he would try one last approach (you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar)
He had his wife cook up a wonderful dinner. He invited his ex over for a meeting.
He told the ex he understood her concern about income and her desire to get her fair share, but if she proceeded in her plans to take him back to court for more money then all the money would go to the lawyers, his boat would sink (bankruptcy), and she wouldn’t benefit from that.
He offered her an increase as long as she agreed that all the lawyers would go away.
She took the bait, and that resolved everything.