Posted on 08/01/2008 7:41:35 AM PDT by uzumaki_naruto
Hello: I am asking fellow freepers for a prayer request. Your help is much appreciated.
I met this woman recently that I feel very strongly about. I haven't felt this way for someone in a long time. I thought of giving up on women completely a few years ago.
The problem is...She's a bit reserved and defense. After several months of knowing, I decided to ask her out. While she said no, she didn't completely shut the door on me. She gave me her phone #, so there might be hope. I don't know exactly what happened in her past.
Can fellow freepers say a prayer for me, praying she'll change her mind?
Thank you so much and God Bless!
Shouldn’t you be going to e-Harmony with this?
Uzi-—She’s probably afraid of you because of your name.....I would change your name.
Prolly not worth it....
Keep looking. When you’re looking for a peach don’t pursue a pear thinking you can change it.
This is a very good idea. Go with it.
Best wishes for your relationship. My only advice, for what its worth, is have patience with her, be a good friend and be there for her when she needs you. That’s what people who are in love do, right? Don’t push it. Most women appreciate that approach and it would probably bring her around faster than if you tried to force the issue.
Jeez, I’m getting soft in my old age....lol. Just call me, “Dear Abby”. ;-)
How about giving her a call every once in awhile?
I know from personal experience that when you focus on winning the affection of a woman who turned you down, you will miss seeing all the other women that are waiting to say yes to you.
Please respect a womens right to discern just whom she wishes to be with. Obviously you have been rebuked once again. Do you not understand the meaning of “NO”.
You must keep away from her and the other women you have been annoying with your presence until you become a real man and have worth of value to offer another human.
Ummm.. projecting a bit? Why the assumption that he is a stalker?
I saw or read nothing in his post that indicates that he has problems with stalking.
She gave him her phone number so there must be at least a minor level of interest on her part.
My advice is — don’t push too hard. Things tend to unfold as they should. Be a good guy, a good friend, and a fun companion. Give her the opportunity to like you. And, if she isn’t the right one — then there’s another one right around the corner.
Also, pay no mind to those telling you to “give up on women”. Bitter individuals generally seek company.
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>> Hello, take a shower, shave, put on your clean clothes, get hold of yourself and seek professional help. Do not continue to be a stalker.
Wow. Seek help, indeed. Merely pursuing a woman does not a stalker create.
>> Please respect a womens right to discern just whom she wishes to be with. Obviously you have been rebuked once again. Do you not understand the meaning of “NO”.
The thing is — “no” doesn’t always mean “no, absolutely not, get away from me, you creep”. Sometimes it means “not right now”, try again later. Sometimes it means “I’d like to continue the friendship and see where it goes”. She gave the dude her phone number ... clearly “no” wasn’t as absolute as you make it out to be.
Hell, “no” can sometimes mean “yes, but I’m being coy and playful”.
>> You must keep away from her and the other women you have been annoying with your presence until you become a real man and have worth of value to offer another human.
Perhaps you’re a little prone to snap judgments about a man’s worth. It seems to me that you’ve shown far less respect for individual humanity than he has. He values her, and pursues. You call him worthless, and condescend.
Get a grip.
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Hello, nhoward14, you said....”I know from personal experience that when you focus on winning the affection of a woman who turned you down, you will miss seeing all the other women that are waiting to say yes to you.”
I will agree that you must have more experience in these matters than myself and I also will agree that your advice is much better than mine and I agree that I probably am “projecting” (is that a professional help term) and I’m now thinking that stalker is a bit strong and believe that “slug” is more appropriate.
Damn, I must be projecting again.
Actually, being the ‘nice friend’ is probably the worst thing you could do. Being the ‘nice friend’ will delegate you to that position forever.
My advice is to ignore her. That will increase her interest.
Sounds stupid, but it’s true. That doesn’t mean be a jerk, it just means back off.
But I am most curious as to just why, heck y'all would just assume that the phone number that the frightened woman gave the slug was a direct link to her and not some fabricated or even a relevant number that would have been of benefit for a slug in distress. Say the local mosque.
Nope. You are not projecting. You are just angry and mean.
>> Ooops, once again I must be wrong. First off; “get a grip” is exactly my advice to the slug.
That you’ve deemed him a “slug” simply for pursuing a woman says more about you than about him. Get a grip.
>> But I am most curious as to just why, heck y’all would just assume that the phone number that the frightened woman gave the slug was a direct link to her [...]
Why would you assume she was “frightened”?
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