How do I know anything? I read the same story, the same report -- report may be a better term than story -- as you. My reading, obviously is at variance with yours. But I'm am fitting the same literary pieces together differently. I have learned from other teachers.
There’s nothing wrong with “spinsterhood”. I suppose you think that a woman can’t function without a husband.
Your protest belies the reality. We all try to live the best we can, and the option of marriage is not afforded to all, yet we recognize that some states of being are more admirable of themselves, even if they may to us be closed. And why close doors that do not have to be closed? Why require that every marriage be the ideal? We should not lay blocks in front of the hobbled, may the way open to them too.
Here we are talking about what a person has control over being. Marriage being for both man and woman the chance to avoid real loneliness, to achieve a wholeness achieved only via "motivated cooperation" with a member of the opposite sex. But also for a man the duty to propagate! The man has a duty to marry and have children -- for the woman it is an option.
But is a valued option -- again, it is the way to cure that intrinsic loneliness, and without a marriage, a joining, a cleaving, to a member of the opposite sex, a person can not shake.
There are other reasons as well -- the man has a duty to protect the woman (women) to whom he has contracted.
I would rather have NO children than to be a plural “wife”.
That's imaginary. We have few examples of non perverted polygamy in our time and culture so your imagination is perfectly understandable. These recent notorious examples would scare anyone!
But they are only examples, not the norm. And do not miss the deplorable condition --- poverty, destitution, lack of hope -- that many single mothers have to operate with -- such conditions accrue when there is not recourse for them.
The responsible men are already bonded to another! In a real way, today, the law forbids a single mom from joining to responsible men!
That’s foul. The men get everything the women get nothing.
That's not true. What do you mean by everything? Men and women are different, but each sex has a role that cannot be filled by the other.
You seem to think women are inferior and don’t deserve the same love and attention from a spouse as a man does. Why should the man have women fighting over him and catering to his every whim, while the women have to wait “their turn”.
Polygamy brings out the worst aspects of human nature, including jealousy and favoritism.
There is not a single happy polygamist situation described in the entire Bible. The Bible does NOT promote polygamy.
Marriage is supposed to be a picture of the marriage of God and the Church. There is only ONE true Church, made up of all true Christians.