I have five friends who have adopted outside the US, three who have adopted here, and one who has tried twice, unsuccessfully, to adopt here. I am also an adopted child myself.
The problem with adoption in America is open adoption laws brought to us by liberals, of course. They effectively turn adoptive parents into legal babysitters, who pay the bills and do the hard work while the mother can demand pictures, visitation, etc. and otherwise get in the way of the bonding that needs to occur between parents and their children. Would you adopt a child if your privacy were going to be forever lost, and the emotional well-being of your child and indeed, your entire family, depended on the day-to-day whims of a 16-year old girl?
Couple that with the fact that usually you must bring the child into your home before the adoption is final and risk losing the child if that immature 16-year-old girl finds she can’t go through with it after all. Or, with modern DNA, a man could find out years after placement that he is the biological father and claim the child. I’ve seen all these scenarios in action, and witnessed the heartbreak.
Overseas adoption is anonymous, and parental rights have already been terminated. No one is going to demand pictures, visitation, or make a claim to parentage years after the adoption of a foreign child.
There are plenty of children in America who desperately need homes, but the system is stacked against those who want to provide those homes. Until that changes, I can completely understand those who adopt overseas. I would do the same to ensure the sanity and integrity of my family.
Just sad.