You just can’t order someone to compel the behavior of another, especially when it’s a performance measure, at the risk of being jailed.
A parent can be held civilly liable for the actions of a minor in their custody, but that involves monetary damages. If your kid breaks out the windows of every car on the block, you’re in trouble. If you told him to do it, then you can go to jail.
But this is far different. It’s not legally distinguishable from an order by the court that you make sure your kid qualifies for the Indy 500 or you go to jail.
It’s not something within your control.
You’re preaching to the choir my friend.