Perhaps we can start to be honest about what blacks actually expect from whites. Blacks will complain they they are being neglected and whites don't care, yet often when whites do show interest, their efforts are rebuffed, or twisted into claims of racism and oppression.
As white person I tend to treat people with benign indifference. I simply get up in the morning, go to my cubicle for 8 hours, and then come home. Is this neglect? Possibly, but at least its an evenhanded neglect. If blacks would like to deal drugs and shoot each other, and live their lives in prison, or if they want to study and graduate from Harvard, I will still live my life the same way.
Its up to each individual to choose their own lives.
But I see what you are getting at. The problem isn't whites who are non-caring, it's whites who promote themselves as being all-caring. And those whites are almost 100% Liberal. Well, maybe 90% Liberal and 10% Moderate.