Since you're presenting your situation in a public forum, I will put in what would otherwise be an intrusive and controversial opinion. And that is: have you a spouse? Then make love and let the rest happen as it happens.
Exhilarating and risky, I know, but it has worked out with bodaciously creative consequences for millions.
17 posted on 03/15/2008 5:40:37 PM PDT by Mrs. Don-o
(Make love. Accept no substitutes.)