Did it ever dawn on you that your lack of success in marriage is a result of your selfish view that you don’t have a responsibility to work at making her husband happy as well as yourself? It is not the fat I think, its just a symptom of selfishness on the fat spouses part.
Look,
I married my father-— (in very real terms) with unfinished business. The most evil man who ever walked and I married his clone-— wearing a minister’s collar and speaking of damning me to hell for being....well, me.
You see, I told him my greatest fear and my deepest weaknesses....and he hurt me, scared me.....destroyed everything I loved and drove away anyone who cared for me.
He damn near killed me (literally) but when it was all done, the wounds were cleansed and I could function as a strong member of society without bowing to a raised hand or voice ever again.
An unfinished war-— necessary but ugly, but necessary.
And yes, my reward was a wonderful relationship later that took away a lot of the darkness.
So no, this isn’t about something as simple as body fat or sex.........
if only-— I like sex and I like my weight where it is....
Seriously, I went in Doris Day and came out Deloris Clayborn without the smiles and giggles.