[najida]

I respond for the same reasons you do....debate is fun....and I was pinged by a friend (and other friends etc).

She’s right sometimes, but I sincerely believe her to be a deeply self-loathihg female, which taints most of what she says.

[Republic of Texas]

So admitting that it’s not a bad idea to consider your husband’s needs and desires is self-loathing? Aren’t men supposed to consider women’s needs? Is that self-loathing as well?

[Glenmerle]

but I sincerely believe her to be a deeply self-loathihg female,

I don't know about self-loathing, but I do believe she's one of those women who tries to garner men's approval by either trashing women in general or saying things like "I've always had more male than female friends." (We've all heard that old chestnut.)