It is the same as the old argument which comes first the chicken or the egg. Play it safe and do what you are supposed to do. LOL!!
It is a lot of work especially with two children but the results are worth it. :>)))
Yeah, you can only do your part and “hope” your spouse is adult enough to do theirs. But if they don’t, that doesn’t free you up to stop doing your part. After all, that is not the high road to motivating them to do their part when they wise up and realize that THEY will reap the benefits of doing their part.