However Silda strikes me as Hillary Jr.
This is sickening.....
Absolutely!
And in Spitzer's case, able to pay $5000/hr to "feel what he needs."
He obviously wasn’t looking for love.
He wasn’t even looking for a complement.
The “performance” she provided was paid for in cash - nothing heartfelt from her it at all.
It seems liberal men with great power feel they are entitled to sex with other women not their wife. That they are superior and that everyone else is there to serve them. That they are the law.
Maybe. OTOH, maybe the husband is just scum.
To paraphrase his response......
"I would be looking up from a pool of blood and her first question would be 'How do I reload this thing?'"
A wife needs to make a man feel like a hero? And if she doesn’t, then it is okay for him to cheat? What nonsense!
Oh Bull Dr. Laura. Men don’t cheat because they are NEGLECTED by their wives. (And for that matter, are men to blame if the woman cheats?) They cheat because they think they are above rules.
Dr. Laura is a selfhating woman.
Laura should put a sock in it and strip down.
When I want to know the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, I look to MSNBC!
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Womens needs (unless she is a slut) are emotional and a mans needs are emotional also but revolve around the physical aspect more than a woman.
The short story is this - Men if you do not provide your wife with the emotional needs she desires you ain't getting laid.
Foreplay starts when you walk through the door.
My wife and I had problems for three years and never once did we stray from each other even though we were about to strangle each other sometimes. Those days are over and we worked everything out and things are going lovely. She provides for me and me for her.
Beautiful.
...all you have to do is look at Eliot Spitzer. He has very high cheekbones and very high brow ridges and those are signs of extremely high testosterone levels...etc, etc.The situation with Spitzer was being used to talk on the more broad subject of spousal cheating. I'd admit using Spitzer was not specifically appropriate for what Dr Laura had to say.
Nothing "excuses" cheating. But there are "reasons" whether those "reasons" are good enough for you or not.
I do not agree that her statement is a crock. It is not the primary reason, that is the husband’s infidelity and disloyalty but..... She has a point and that is if he got what he needed at home then maybe, just maybe, he would not seek it somewhere else. At first I thought, he simply gave in to his urges but if it is true (we really do not know) that he was doing this for years,,,,, There may be some truth to Dr. Laura’s statement.
Dr Laura nails it again.
Speaking from experience here. The key word in her article is “share”.
My ex accused me of sexual abuse. She could never quantify or qualify it. Unfortunately, when she pulled this card on my pastor he said just claiming it without examples did not make it so, but her withholding sex FOR 14 MONTHS was definitely sex abuse!
Although I WAS able to avoid cheating, few would have blamed me if I had. I’m 54 and have talked to a lot of men about their relationships with their wives. I’ve been to domestic violence classes and seen men reduced to mere shadows of themselves because they were clearly falsely accused of abuse when their worst crime was not dropping everything and jumping when their wife said “jump”.
And I’ve seen women who really were abused.
Bottom line is that when a couple has been married as long as Spitzer and his wife then, yes, she does “share” the blame in MOST cases. Not all of course...
No it’s not a crock. Dr Laura is right. SOME women bear PART of the blame when their husbands stray. This happens when they belittle their husbands, don’t support them, don’t make them feel special and wanted, and refuse to be intimate with them.
What’s a guy to do, especially when other women shower him with compliments, flirt with him, and make him feel special and wanted?
This close-minded view of the mythical man, where he is expected to remain faithful, despite these negative pressures from his wife and positive pressures from other women is asinine. This is why divorce is so high in our society and why so many women live alone, bitter, and always complaining about how they are victims of evil white men. This is why so many white men end up marrying Asian women - they VALUE their husbands (at least both my late wife and my current wife does).
Look, it isn’t hard to understand: we men have sensitive egos - if we don’t get what makes us happy and valued at home, we’ll go elsewhere.
I’ve never cheated on either of my wives because I know I can’t get outside what I already have inside the home. My wife will just come into my office just to give me a kiss and a cuddle, tell me she loves me, thank me for giving her handsome sons, and for marrying her. Sometimes, she’ll bring a sandwich and drink, just because she knows I’m working hard.
What do you think that does to my ego and self-esteem? Of course I reciprocate - I take care of the baby when he wakes up every night, I cook dinner most nights, I clean the bathrooms, I go shopping with her (even clothes and shoes), I give her a dozen roses out of the blue after she put together a great children’s party last week, I go walking with her, and watch television shows together.
Marriage means both sacrifice for the other. If either party feels demeaned and isn’t getting what he or she wants out of the relationship, they’re going to seek it elsewhere.
It definitely isn’t a “crock.”
Dr. Laura is missing the most important fact...MEN ARE JUST DOGS.
I think Dr. Laura is wrong. It is a character issue and some men fail.
Oh Geez, didn’t we all just know that PE Coach, and former Nude Model “Dr” Laura would chime in on this.
Hasn’t this wretched old hag’s 15 minutes run out yet?