No excuse for adultery, but as a practical matter, she’s right. If you are a poor excuse for a husband or a wife, you will pay the price sooner or later. Seems like lately I can meet a couple, see how they treat each other, and know pretty quickly where things are headed.
A couple of years later my wife will say, “Did you hear ..(fill in adultery/divorce story here)”, and I’ll smugly say, “See, I told you.”
My wife may leave me one day for smugness.
I agree with you. While one does the act, the other can look at themselves and say, “What did I do to drive him/her to that point?”
Shoot, in business, whenever someone quits their job I ask the same question. I see a resignation as a mark on me, and ask what I could have done differently to save it.
It’s really the only way to grow in any relationship - look for ways to improve, rather than be content with complacency.