Posted on 03/11/2008 5:30:41 PM PDT by Cecily
Dr. Laura Schlessinger has never been one to shrink from controversy, and she leaped headlong into one on Monday when she said that if a husband cheats, his wife may share some of the blame.
“When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,” the popular psychologist and radio personality said.
More commonly known as just “Dr. Laura,” Schlessinger made the remarks while participating in one of several panel discussions on TODAY dealing with the breaking news that New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer had been connected to a high-priced prostitution ring.
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Catch 22 again!
Love should not be for just the benifit of one OR the other!
It should benifit BOTH!
But from the male point of view...He’s looking, and trying to figure out ways to have his needs met...without losing everything he’s worked his whole life for!
cue the photo of the hillary clinton nutcracker.
I don't know. Whenever I've heard some distraught woman calling saying she's devastated because she found links to porn on the computer, I've her say something to the effect of "Men like to look at naked women. Get a grip".
But this 'she's partly to blame' crap is unreal. Dr. Laura knows nothing about their marital situation, and her comments basically justify his actions. I remember calling into her show about Clinton when he admitted he cheated. She went on a rant against him that lasted at least a month.
IMO Dr. Laura is just stating common sense. If a spouse is feeling unfulfilled at home, he/she is more likely to fall off the wagon. But she should have mentioned that it works both ways.
ROFLLLLLLLLL!!!!
Well said! However, I have to admit that being married to an angel has not been work for me. And even better is that she is still the same unselfish beautiful person I married 36 years ago.
I personally think that Mrs Spitzer should start charging the SOB $4300. a night for her services. Maybe then he would find it more exciting at home. Too many men just like to be naughty.
Dr. Laura seemed to change her tone a bit after one man wrote in to point out that SOME men resort to affairs after a long history of rejection, nagging and criticism from their wives. Tghis guy did not try to excuse his behavior, but merely pointed out that if wives made themselves available to their husbands, there would be fewer affairs.
Since that time, Dr. Laura will often ask a woman, calling in to complain about a husbands porno habit or an affair, if she has made it easy for her husband to have sex with her.
She also points out that there are some guys who are jerks no matter what a wife does. I strongly suspect Spitzer is one of those jerks. I would be very hesitant to think anything negatively of Mrs. Spitzer because he is a well-known a$$hole.
I must disagree with you.
A man needs to feel like a man and if the wife neglects to make that happen, he’ll find what he needs in the arms and bed of another woman. Women really are no different and will have an affair for the same reason.
I am not saying that it excuses infidelity because it doesn’t, but it explains it.
lol Dr. Laura really pissed off the girls with this one. I think she was speaking generally. The quote was “may share some of the blame.” My guess is Silda was a mafia wife who probably knew deep down what he was up to even if she chose to ignore it a la Carmella Soprano.
I've found that the same women that resent their husband not grabbing a vacuum the minute he gets home from work, never seem to pick up a plunger, a mouse trap, a snow shovel, a paint brush, a lawn mower, a shovel, or a wrench.
In cases of “marriages” like the Spitzers or the Clintons, - are we supposed to feel bad for the women? If you pick a sub human like one of those two - you’re going to learn the hard way, imo.
Damn, a man pushing a vacuum cleaner, what can be sexier than that, hmm, perhaps a man cooking dinner :-).
To the men out there, women are not wired the same way as you men (don’t expect her to be always be willing and ready at the drop of a hat), but the little things can go a long way towards making both of you happy.
Our culture is in denial as to the existence of “Sexual Addiction”....even many mental health professionals are clueless to its reality.
I disagree.. Shes rough on some women because many of them are just ditzs.. Could have to do with the fact most democrats are women.,. many others are Oprah-oid RINOs..
She does say in her book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands that wives set the tone of the home, for better or worse.
Ping for possible Wimmen R Evil ping!!
“I don’t think it’s fair for her to generalize like that. I’ve personally known women who were loving and faithful wives, good mothers and their husbands were cheating pigs.”
Where exactly did she generalize?
“When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,”
She doesn’t say that it’s always the woman’s fault. What she does say is that men have certain needs just as women do, and that when women fail to meet the needs of their men, expect the relationship to end up on the rocks, the same way a relationship will end up on the rocks when a man doesn’t meet the needs of his wife.
I think it’s a fair point, and more a message to married women than to those who just went through a split.
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