Posted on 03/11/2008 5:30:41 PM PDT by Cecily
Dr. Laura Schlessinger has never been one to shrink from controversy, and she leaped headlong into one on Monday when she said that if a husband cheats, his wife may share some of the blame.
“When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,” the popular psychologist and radio personality said.
More commonly known as just “Dr. Laura,” Schlessinger made the remarks while participating in one of several panel discussions on TODAY dealing with the breaking news that New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer had been connected to a high-priced prostitution ring.
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sorry if I disagree there. My hubby is always willing and ready when I want it.
I agree with you. While one does the act, the other can look at themselves and say, “What did I do to drive him/her to that point?”
Shoot, in business, whenever someone quits their job I ask the same question. I see a resignation as a mark on me, and ask what I could have done differently to save it.
It’s really the only way to grow in any relationship - look for ways to improve, rather than be content with complacency.
Often, she is a “nag and a shrew” in the man’s eyes because she has become unchallenging to him sexually, and men are horny.
Simple as that.
If you can’t control your urges, adultery happens.
For one thing, if she isn't hungry, she would still make him dinner.
For another, while watching him eat dinner, she might get hungry herself.
(Ya never know.)
Why do you say that? Saying that women share some of the blame for husband who stray isn’t absolving the husbands of wrong doing, any more than saying abusive parents contribute to delinquency doesn’t absolve the delinquents from their wrong doings.
All she’s saying here is that wives are not helpless when it comes to adultery, that often they have the power and the ability to affect their husband’s actions, instead of being helpless victims, they can take certain actions that can help prevent their husbands from straying.
Lack of character and self-control.
Here’s a tip for the men
http://apnews1.iwon.com//article/20080306/D8V7UGIG0.html
Men Who Do Housework May Get More Sex
NEW YORK (AP) - American men still don’t pull their weight when it comes to housework and child care, but collectively they’re not the slackers they used to be. The average dad has gradually been getting better about picking himself up off the sofa and pitching in, according to a new report in which a psychologist suggests the payoff for doing more chores could be more sex.
Yep, if Mrs. Spitzer had stood up at that podium with Eliot’s package hanging from her hand, she’d be on the road to correcting the problem. That she “stood by her [cheating] man” was enabling and goes to Dr. Laura’s point. (Unless Silda was biding her time to really ream him to the core. You go, girl!)
I don’t think it’s fair for her to generalize like that. I’ve personally known women who were loving and faithful wives, good mothers and their husbands were cheating pigs.
“It’s difficult to overstate how important sex is to men.” This was one of the key points I learned in Birds&Bees 101.
It has served me well.
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““When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,””
May I say, Dr. Laura, you’ve full of it.
I think it is far more complex.
I think the political class are now being exposed as having medival style political weddings. The clintons are married but have their respective girlfriends in order to keep power. Mcgreevy, and Spitzer seem to be in the same path.
a challenge? are we talking about video games or a wife? Do not forget how many older women were complaining about viagra because their husbands wanted sex from their wives. (oh the horror)
I love Dr. Laura.
I think she’s spot on.
About marital sexual relations:
I Corinthians 7
1Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.[a] 2But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
Yeah right.
People don’t like this line of discussion because they don’t want to take responsibility for how much they control the happiness of their spouse.
She likes adventure with security
And more than one man can provide
She planned adventure feeling sure that he
Would not be home ‘till after five
He turned on the lights and turned them off again
And said the one thing he could say
All these years
Where have I been
Well I’ve been down the rode to work and home again
And I’m still here
Untill I’m gone
Don’t you rub it in too hard that I’ve been wrong
All these years
She said, “You’re not the man you used to be”
He said, “Neither is this guy”
She said, “There’s some things you refuse to see
But I guess sometimes so do I”
She made no excuse why she was lying there
She said the one thing she could say
All these years
What have I done
I made your supper and your daughter and your son
Still I’m here
And still confused
But I can finally see how much I stand to lose
All these years
I’m still here
And so confused
But I can finally see how much I stand to lose
All these years
I don’t think we can blame this all on say Mrs. Spitzer. We don’t know if she is a cold fish.
Is Cold-Fish problem so prevalent? My personal experience makes that hard for me to believe.
I don’t believe the issue here is that “Dinner” wasn’t available at home. I believe the issue is WHAT he wanted to have for “Dinner”.
Nobody goes to eat at same place everyday, not even to their most favorite place.
Today every man is bomarded with hot and kinky Sexual imagery and you don’t have to watch porn for that.
That leads to certain kind of hunger, which men are too shy to to tell to their wives. You know, certain things she might consider “unsafe” dot dot dot.
Dr. Laura and Dr. Oprah should teach women to make the MENU more exciting.
JMO. LOL!
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