Man to get child support back

Augusta Chronicle ^

[rednesss]

This is somewhat old, but nonetheless, very scary.

http://www.copss.org/media/LATimesSeries1.htm

[RandallFlagg]

BTW, I got $109.55 per month.
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neener-neener-neener
;-)

[scan59]

got a divorce and alimony and then married the teacher but is keeping it a secret for the $3,000 per month alimony.

If you know about it, then it's no secret. Marriage records are public info. Why wouldn't your friend get a copy and take it to court? If this has been going on for four years now, there must be more to your story.

[maine-iac7]

Ya kinda gotta give kudos to the bio father - he didn’t have to step forward and initiate a paternal test to prove the child was his...and part of the reason he gave was that he felt bad that the other man had to be paying for a child that wasn’t his ... the man whose been paying all these years, willingly signed on for it in the beginning.

Sounds like the only ‘culprit’ here is the mother....and the child at least had two men willing to step up instead of screaming ‘that ain’t MY kid.’

[SF Republican]

Her ex is not my friend, I have never met him, I too wonder why he does not check the records at city hall, if I was paying $36,000 per year, I darn well would check them regularly.
I think it is a pretty good secret, her 12 year old daughter does not even know about the marriage, my wife and I (and the couple) may very well be the only ones that know. Certainly as with any story there is more to it but I do not know what facts that I know to add.

[SlapHappyPappy]

When my ex-wife split from her prior husband the courts were amazed he didn’t insist on a paternity test before agreeing to pay child support. In fact they actively discouraged him from making the decision.

[Niteranger68]

Where are our resident FReeper idiots who believe the welfare of the child is more important than the right parent paying support?

[Emmett McCarthy]

Courts rule on a “situational” basis. And any number of factors can come into play to influence a judge’s ruling. In more cases than anyone would like to admit, a judge will hand down an adverse ruling against a person because that judge knows that the person affected does not have the financial means to appeal it. All of which makes rulings at law arbitrary, capricious and unpredictable. “Respect for the law” is increasingly difficult as a result. The result in this case seems to be just and fair, but no one should think that the very same judge would rule the same way if, for example, there were no other man present and available to take responsibility.

[HeartlandOfAmerica]

might not know who the biological father is without a DNA test.

EVERY child support case should have, as its first step, a DNA test paid for by the parent who's about to get the financial windfall of probably alimony + child support.

Time to clear out this nest of snakes. Too much injustice done under the blindness of not knowing.

[MEGoody]

The saddest part of this kind of thing is the affect on the child. He/she ends up feeling like people care more about money than they do about him/her.

[MEGoody]

How does one keep a marriage a secret from the court? As far as I know, in every state, lists of marriage licenses issued are available to the general public and are sometimes printed in newspapers.

[zeugma]

Wish I only had to pay $106.06 per month. I’m being bled for more than 12 times as much. I pay more than $14k/year.

[SF Republican]

How does one keep a marriage a secret from the court? - My best guess (and it is only a guess) would be that divorce judges do not have staff check the records of each case they have been on to see if someone got married. Unless someone brings it to the courts attention, why would they review the case?

[NormsRevenge]

Paging Maury Povich ..

and Yes .. Good on that Judge.

[MEGoody]

Unless someone brings it to the courts attention, why would they review the case?

I assume the ex did not know his ex-wife had remarried, but that seems strange. (I guess it is possible as long as they didn't have any kids, or as long as the kids never talked to him or saw their mother.)

If he knew about the marriage, he should have told the court.

[SF Republican]

If he knew about the marriage, he should have told the court - That is the reason it is secret, they are getting $3,000 a month alimony, if they guy knew she was married and he could keep that money, I assume he would tell the court. They do have two children but the children do not know their mother remarried.

[MEGoody]

Since you know about the marriage, track the husband down and tell him.

[SF Republican]

I have no idea where he lives or even what his name is.
I do believe what goes around comes around and one day, sooner or later, as with most secrets, the cat will come out of the bag and there will be a (high) price to pay by the culprits.

[muawiyah]

The judge must have noted somewhere that the woman and the presumed baby daddy who'd been paying the child support NEVER MARRIED.

Now, if they'd married, it'd been a whole 'nuther story!