[fabian]

nope, you have it mixed up in your mind. To abstain often in marriage is putting spiritual love above your need for physical pleasure. That is a good thing and sex needs to diminish if the woman is to respect and love you more. That is biblical too. The pastor who is encouraging more sex is furthering the lie of sex as love. You can have sex with love, but it in itself is just a physical act. The connection of man and wife is much more in truth and spirit but many substitute sex instead, selfishly. Fhu.com has some real good pointers on being spiritual and not so selfish.

[Anitius Severinus Boethius]

Nope, you have it mixed up in your mind. Paul says to not deny each other and that periods of abstinence in marriage are to be by mutual consent and only for a period set aside for prayer (a sexual fast as it were) and that after that set period was over, the couple should then come together again.

That doesn’t sound like diminishing to me, it sounds like it is to be a regular occurrence that can be interrupted only for times of spiritual sacrifice.

[dmw]

“To abstain often in marriage is putting spiritual love above your need for physical pleasure. That is a good thing and sex needs to diminish if the woman is to respect and love you more.”

Sex needs to diminish if the woman is to respect and love you more? Why does sex need to diminish in order for your wife’s respect and love to increase? You say this is biblical. How’s that, and what scripture reference supports this?