[PapaBear3625]

The pastor looked at her and gently said, “withholding of sex is a form of sexual abuse”. She was furious and file for divorce shortly thereafter

I would regard a chronic refusal (as distinct from occasionally not feeling up to it) to be as great a violation of the marriage vows as infidelity. Each spouse is supposed to make an effort to keep the other happy, in whatever form that takes

[RobRoy]

>.Each spouse is supposed to make an effort to keep the other happy, in whatever form that takes.<<

Yup. My wife says the way I treat her all day is the foreplay. Part of that is, when something important needs done, I do it - NOW! Not next week. It’s amazing how far that goes. It’s a trust and confidence thing.