I am NOT a feminist. I am a faithfully, happily married stay at home mom and wife who homeschooled for 7 years.
But I do believe that a *good* woman has to have power. I am head-strong and opinionated. But I devote all that energy into teaching, raising and protecting my children and home. I tell my husband what vitamins to take and I feed him well. *That's my job.* The man works 16 hour days to provide for us and doesn't have time to get into all that. When he comes home, I take care of him.
It's a partnership. Two days ago he held my hand and carried me out of the dr's office after a particularly painful procedure. Once we got home he kicked our two teenagers in the butt and had them clean up and make dinner.
This morning I got him a decongestant to help with a stuffed ear. I know he wanted to argue, but he didn't. He shut up and took the stupid pill.
Division of labor. That's the key. I rule the house, he assists me. He rules everything outside of these four walls and I assist him. We both have areas where we are stronger than the other. We compliment the other. We bend to the will of the other when necessary, but *both* of us have the greater good of the relationship first and foremost in our heads and hearts at all times.
Weak, subservient women don't make good wives and they *definitely* don't make good mothers. The best wives are strong, powerful and *committed* to their families. They only bend to the will of their man when he *right* and they're confident and secure enough to admit when they're wrong.
Yes in the home I agree, and it’s not a dictatorship- but in the end your husband has the ultimate authority. I agree it will be a partnership (and a sacred contract/oath/ etc) whenever I get married.
No, I will nto marry a woman that will constantly argue with me just for the sake of being opinionated, but only for the sake of our children/relationship.
What a great post.
I can’t identify (yet) with all of it, but I can’t help but acknowledge you have to be largely correct.