Read again. I don't believe the context of my statement includes every.single.male.
It speaks to the point of the article, about women's expectations and their dreams. Not every woman has the same dream of marriage and the author of the article is excoriated rightly for suggesting such.
Many "old school males" of my acquaintance years ago, were quite forthright about their standard of beauty. I've had two very wonderful men both tell me about the girl they were dating, all of her good qualities, but lament the fact that she wasn't not pretty enough for them.
I ain't crying about it. It's how it is, for many. The scientific fact that men are appealed to through their vision first, and sometimes foremost is just that: a cold fact. It doesn't make men shallow, or contemptible, or wrong. It makes them men.
If a man sets his standards for a mate according to what pleases his eye, and no more, then who are women to complain? If a woman sets her standards according to what provides security, who is a man to complain?
I've often heard mothers tell their daughters that it's just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor man.
Fortunately, few people follow their own advice, or adhere to their own standards, else no one would ever marry!
Yes, I have to agree....the visual senses generate, a hormone called oxytocin, which in turn drives the bonding chemicals, and that produces a mild high....the old adage: love at the first sight, is true
From my own personal experiences with Internet dating...after viewing the photos of prospective ladies, I get a good feeling, when I view a photo of a certain type of women, that I would like to meet....I read somewhere, that men will seek out women, that genetically are the same as the individual man....
‘Many “old school males” of my acquaintance years ago, were quite forthright about their standard of beauty. I’ve had two very wonderful men both tell me about the girl they were dating, all of her good qualities, but lament the fact that she wasn’t not pretty enough for them.’
If a man knows a woman is not “wife material” for whatever reason, he should not continue to date her unless he tells her that marriage will never be in the cards. Then a self-respecting woman will stop dating him.
I read once that nowadays a big fraction of men, maybe 50%, want a woman in the hottest 5%. That’s just not realistic. My looks are average at best, and I married a woman who is pretty but no model. We are now blessed with three lovely children.