Great observation.
Again,
an observation-— a good friend and I have had very similar lives. She’s married, but it’s a huge struggle for her to be happy in marriage, her basic instinct is for seperation-— her hubby can’t fathom why marriage isn’t the perfect state. But he got it honest....
Her FIL is someone who married purely to have a ‘female in the house’....he could not stand being alone after his wife died. So he dated and he found a woman who wanted to be married.
Sadly, he was this super-modern, neat, everything in it’s place person and he’s found himself married to a woman who loves doilies and pot pourri. He’s miserable. But he married out of fear.
The reasons for marriage is far more important than the emotions.