Except that there are all the holier than thou’s who completely blame being *fat* on eating habits.
I read something somewhere that proposed that some overweight people are actually in better condition than thin people because they know they are overweight and work at doing what they can about it by eating right and exercising, thus making them more fit than the skinny person who lives on junk food and doesn’t do anything.
I have two daughters. One is skinny as can be, can eat anything she wants, and gets a reasonable amount of exercise because she knows it’s important. Her sister is a good 30 pounds heavier, eats the same, runs track, and has trouble keeping weight off. They each take after a different side of the family in physique and apparently metabolism.
Blaming it strictly on eating habits is an easy answer.
Boy are you dense! It’s not about who eats more than you and weighs less than you. You adjust your own personal food intake and activity level to make your own weight appropriate. If you have to eat 10% less than someone else in order to maintain a healthy weight, then so be it. Just shut up and do it.
If one person has to study twice as hard as another to pass trigonometry, do we tell them it’s ok to fail because they aren’t getting it as easily as others? OF COURSE NOT!
Well, maybe you would. But if you did, I’d criticize you for that too.
Of course it is, for exactly the reasons you state, some people just don't want to "think" about anything.
My mother and her sister were very similar as your daughters. Other than when pregnant my mother never weighed more than 125 in her life, and was close to 5'11". Her older sister, OTOH, always had to struggle with her weight even though she was always the more athletic of the 2. My aunt was never fat, but never looked like my mother either, she's just a big woman.
She will be 75 this month and we enjoy sharing recipes for all sorts of things, including jellies and cookies, and send each other our latest concoctions........my mother passed away a year or so ago.