A few years after I returned from Vietnam, I went to the local VFW with my Dad, who was both a Vietnam and WWII Vet. Some of the members made it clear that I was not welcome. My Dad was pretty embarrased about it. While I kept my VFW membership for a number of years after that, I never again set foot inside a VFW post.
I can’t imagine that my nephew who is serving his second tour in Iraq would even bother to go in the first time.
Your comment is on target..but remember that those who made those comments were probably REMF's who had not left that bar stool in years. Think of them as John Kerry's....phoney heroes....