That's a possible scenario. But then it would be the husband's responsibility to bring this to the wife's attention, instead of just compounding the problem by ignoring her.
Oh trust me. Men bring it up. But after a while, it just becomes easier to call the boys for a few beers. That beer and that football game are never tired or have a headache.
When a buddy of mine got caught with another woman, his response was “You said sex wasn’t important to you anymore so why are you yelling now”.
Well sure. But most of us humans are just bumbling along, not quite connecting the dots between feeling A and reaction B.
I haven't read Dr. Laura's book, but my impression is that instead of spending hours and hours hashing and rehashing feelings A,B,C... and reactions A, B, C..., and that's if you can convince a spouse to try, put it all aside and try for a "do over".
Bad marriages, generally, contain two people who aren't doing their "job". My job is my responsibility regardless of how well he is doing his job. Luckily, if I do my job well, my husband will respond to that, just the same way he responded to my doing my job badly. Once we're both feeling more satisfied and happy together, it's easier to want to work on specific trouble spots.
It isn't foolproof. And I don't see it as submitting so much as just taking responsibility for my part.