Posted on 01/25/2008 9:44:11 AM PST by nickcarraway
LOL!
Yes! Why do you think the Laurel K. Hamilton books caught so much heck? The heroine was acting just like a James Bond type character.
Stupid but honest questions: What's the man's responsibility in all of this? What's going to get him to change his bad ways if the wife yields?
For example, lets say that after a couple years of marriage the husband decides he doesn't need to do his share of work around the house. Also, let's say he spends nearly every weekend with his buddies and hardly any time with the wife.
This causes resentment in the wife and she reacts by withholding sex...maybe not a conscious decision on her part, but let's say her lack of desire is a direct result of her dissatisfaction. From what some of our female Freepers have said, this seems like a realistic possibility.
Hubby in turn gets stressed over the lack of physical intimacy. A cold war settles over the relationship. The wife realizes what is bothering her husband, and takes the first step in trying to fix things by "yielding" to him.
I see a number of problems with this. For one thing, the husband's flaws don't appear to be addressed. He's still not doing his part, but he's happy because everything seems okay now. Wifey is still upset so she's probably not going to enjoy the sex she is having, or perhaps I should say the sex she is submitting to. There's still an undercurrent of resentment in the relationship, and a degree of unfairness to the wife.
I'm sure I've unfairly interpreted your advice, so please show me where I am wrong.
>> ZZZZACTLY!! Take care of things (wink!), and there will be plenty more for ya later, maybe more than you want.
I was with you until that last part. :)
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Yeah, it really makes the future look bright. I linked my fiancee the story and she thinks the woman is a lesbian in denial.
Did you actually read the whole article. The biggest error the husband made was marrying this narcissistic, selfish witch.
She even thinks he's too stupid to find out she wrote a book and is featured in an article in a nation wide British newspaper! She actually said it!
I think we’ll see a book by a french author now with the title “Why Men Need Mistresses”
Yep. Some of the stuff the Mrs and I have suggested to each other would bring a slap to the face pretty darned quick. Fortunately we're both very broad minded so to speak. What goes on in a private home between consenting adults...well...nuff said.
The other point this cow is missing is that having a good marriage takes work, commitment, and communication. This trollop doesn't seem to want to engage in any of those.
I pity her husband. I really do. If he's smart he'll quit whatever job he has and take one that pays starvation wages. Why should he bust his hump when she's going to take half the day his last child leaves the house?
Personally I'd be filing for divorce like yesterday and take the financial hit just to be rid of this .....
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>> Stupid but honest questions: What’s the man’s responsibility in all of this? What’s going to get him to change his bad ways if the wife yields?
According to Dr. Laura’s book — a wife has supreme control on the mood of the household. A GOOD MAN (essential distinction ... this won’t work on jackasses) will do for his wife simply to make her happy ... but when it becomes clear that nothing he does makes her happy, he does nothing.
When she become happy to be his girl, he recieves the respect (sexually and otherwise) he desires as a man — and he’ll return to doing things just for her happiness.
Dr. Laura explains this a LOT better than I do.
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She has Huma to take care of her needs.
Also, add in the ‘he was already pretty selfish in bed to start with’ factor (which often goes hand in hand with being selfish in other ways). A lot of women don’t want to go down the ‘lay down and let him do me like a good wife’ path because it will just make the situation worse instead of better.
Am I making sense?
Another feminist success story. I guess it made women stupid too.
Hey!
Some of us here look like her! :)
>> Personally I’d be filing for divorce like yesterday and take the financial hit just to be rid of this ...
The disrespect shown in publishing a BOOK documenting the sexual inadequacies of the man you supposedly love is astounding.
I’d have changed the locks on the house. Intentional malicious public disrespect is a dealbreaker.
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Ahhh,
so step one in all this is separating the good men from the jackasses. And the good women from the witches....Works for me!
Sex is like pizza. When it’s good it’s really good and when it’s bad, it’s still pretty good.
well we are responsible for the choices we make in life, aren’t we? it is rare that men just TURN selfish and inconsiderate after years of marriage, nor do women either. people don’t want to take responsibility for having made an error in judgment with their choice of mate, and so rail against these traits that were likely there all along.
Theoretically, you’d have separated them out before you married them.
H
A woman would rather have no sex than bad sex,
to a man, there is no such thing as bad sex ;)
Stud.
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