Posted on 01/25/2008 9:44:11 AM PST by nickcarraway
Do you think it would help if I tried two road flares???
“So what of her sexual history? It seems that Carrie wasn’t always this uninterested in sex. She admits to having 23 lovers before she married.”
Poor old Hal, shoulda checked her out on CarFax first.
Two road flares and a spot light.
“Well, didya? I can’t tell? DIDYA!?”
If ya have ta ask, it didn’t happen........;)
As Jeff Foxworthy put it — you don’t want to buy a used rental car for the same reason you don’t want to marry a prostitute ...
“Anything thats been ridden that hard, by that many people — you might not want to stick your key in it.”
H
Hey now! I'm just talking about this particular individual who just happens to be a female. I'm trying to be evenhanded, stressing the responsibility of both spouses. No sweeping generalizations...yet :)
Sorry, it wasn’t aimed at you.
I’m trying to make some sort of remark about needing earplugs ... without being excessively crude.
1) He doesn't love her enough, and show it.
2) She doesn't respect him enough, and show it.
3) Women have been sold a bad bill of goods by the feminist movement. Not the part about equal pay for equal work, but about expectations and balance in marriage.
Here's the tough part. To break the logjam, the best and easiest way is for the woman to give in first. Meaning, make a conscious decision to become his girl again, to become his sex partner again. Treat him like a man. Pamper him. Meaning, yield. Definitely not what four years of liberal college education, and the media, tell women. But the feelings are visceral and the first steps are also behavioral, not analytical.
But it works. Why do you think that most men tell their mistresses "my wife doesn't understand me?" He is crying out that his wife won't let him be a man, doesn't regard him highly as a man, doesn't respect his work, doesn't respect his deficiencies while honoring his strengths.
Among those who endorse the action that it's the woman's first move are Dr Laura and Nancy Missler. Probably many others.
My wife went to a Christian ladies conference on marriages with a bunch of girlfriends, and they all came away shaken up. Because they got the above messages, and found it very disturbing to what they had been led to expect.
I'm expecting to get flamed ... so don't hold back!
>> Again, it’s a two way street....A man can say ‘she’s a fat pig’ and wifey can say ‘he’s a two second rocket with a 3 inch fuse’. I actually know of a case like this...where both partners had physical, erm, issues.
I think the problem with these two particular people may be that they’re both obnoxious.
H
I finally looked at the source, with the picture.
Yeah, she's a bit puffy ... but not bad, really. A genuine smile would go a long way, there.
Folks who deep down inside dislike themselves seem to have difficulty coming up with a genuine smile.
TMI...
But sometimes, they simply don’t even like each other anymore. I know a 30 year marriage that ended because the wife went through treatment for cancer, and her husband, well...refused to turn the theromstat down when she was burning up.
Nothing new, he’d always been like that...but something turned a corner inside her—— she realized she wasn’t happy, and really, neither was he.... they were stuck in a old habit and thought they had to stay in it.. They were constantly at odds...wanting different things and had no reason to be together, other than habit.
And no, she will tell you he’s still a very funny, intelligent guy who will make some woman very happy. Just not her.
Today’s culture has created unrealistic and artificial, not to mention coldly cynical, expectations of what marriage or even sex lives should be.
>> A genuine smile would go a long way, there.
I’m not sure she has it in her.
The fact that she’d voluntarily write a book bashing her own husband’s sexual performance doesn’t bode well for her personality. If I were her guy — this level of public disrespect would be a dealbreaker.
H
Exactly,
good sex creates anticipation for more good sex,
bad sex makes you just quit thinking about it.
No flames necessary — right on, buddy!
H
"Ten were proper boyfriends," she recalls. "I regretted having sex with six of them, loved three of them but only one of the 23 ever gave me an orgasm.
This "woman" has a real problem.
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